...something long overdue...

Quite a night last night, let me tell you. Scott beat me to the punch on this topic in his blog, and had some things to say about it...

Taken from Scott's blog:

"With the Beaver situation, I completely hold you responsible. You spoke out of turn, regardless of your intent or action, and when confronted about it began to cry and tried to confuse the issue with other things happening in your life. It's not your job to make everyone else happy. It's your job to make you happy. Maybe you haven't heard the rest of us clearly enough: We don't care to be friends with Erich; we don't want to be friends with Erich."

Hizzy, I'm sorry that you've got so much stress going on in your life right now. I, too, hope you can weather through it, and I will be supportive in any way I can for you, as your friend.

However, I agree with Scott. It was completely wrong of you to do what you did. It is not your job to mediate, meddle, or interject yourself into Beaver and Erich's business. Beaver had a VERY legitimate reason for wanting to wait to stir the shit pot on this issue, and now he doesn't have that option anymore. All because you wanted to "fix" your circle of friends.

I'm not mad at you for this. I have no personal stake in this matter. I do, however, think that it was a back-stab on Beaver on your part to do what you did. In trying to "do the right thing", you betrayed Beaver, when you had promised that you wouldn't say anything to him. You even said you knew you shouldn't have done it to Scuba, so my question is: If you knew it wasn't to be done, why did you chose to do it anyway? The only reason I'm annoyed by this is because Beaver doesn't deal with confrontation well at all, and this forces him to deal with it. And, contrary to popular opinion, I'm a really great friend and don't like to see my friends having to deal with shit like this.

You say you're sick and tired of all the fighting, and you just want everyone to get along? Fine.

Go bitch at ERICH. HE is the one that was the dickhead and chose to drop almost all of us. If he now has a problem with the fact that he's nearly friendless, he has no one to blame but himself. If he was sitting there on the verge of tears or whatever because of this issue, then maybe he should have thought about that before he chose to be a back-stabber.

You've been playing devil's advocate with this issue for longer than I want to think about. I've been silent about my dislike of that, mostly because I didn't wish to get into it with you. However, I will voice my opinions now:

I tried with that ungrateful motherfucker [Erich]. I invited him out to guy's nights, I called him, I called him and Toni after Toni had her accident. I made every effort. I didn't act unfairly to him in any fucking way. I stood up for him with none of the other guys (except for Dave) wanted anything to do with him. And he just kept doing what he was doing, and worse, blamed ME for all his woes in friendship and started talking shit on me.

And fuck the argument about how I didn't like Toni. I was never under contract to "like" Toni. I just personally did not like her, and that's MY personal choice. She was snobby to me every single time; I've seen Toni treat people like shit, with you, with Amber, with Kristin Merz; she's snobby and stuck up in a way I haven't seen since high school click groups; and I really don't like being talked down to, or treated like a "lesser". Fuck that shit. And, I was willing to be civil and cool with her because Erich was happy with her; I was unwaveringly nice and courteous to Toni at all times. The only thing I ever said to Erich was the truth about how I felt, and I tried talking to him man-to-man, and he made the choice to "drop" me, both because of my truthfulness and because I am supposedly too "boring" for his fucking expensive tastes in a good time.

I can't speak for anyone else's reasons, but Erich did this same thing to several of the other guys, and I don't blame them for feeling the way they do, and I completely condone their decisions to not have anything to do with him, and will defend those decisions whole-heartedly.

Bottom line, Erich is DONE. Sadly, you're ideal of a unified group with Erich involved is NOT going to happen. I'm NOT Erich's friend, I will NOT be Erich's friend ever again. He can fuck off and live...live with the fact that he lost almost all of his friends with his own immaturity. I am forgiving and I am fair to a fault, but even I have my limits and Erich surpassed those limits long ago with his self-centered, back-stabbing new way of life.

If Dave wants to be friends with him, that's cool with me. If Beaver wants to be friends with him, that's cool with me. But I don't want to be friends with Erich, and you all WILL be cool with it, or so help me God you will be hearing from me. Erich gave up a good friend in me, and he is going to have to live with that. So are you and everyone else who argues for a reconciliation.


Quilled Tunes: "What Do I Have To Do" - Stabbing Westward